“The Lasting Beauty of a Gentle and Tranquil Spirit.”- 1 Peter 3:3-4
“Let your beauty, not be external the braiding of hair and the wearing of gold jewelry or fine clothes, but the inner person of the heart, the lasting beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is precious in God’s Sight.” 1 Peter 3:3-4
In a world where beauty standards saturate the media and we are continuously pumped with negative and unrealistic representations of beauty, our self-esteem can be severely tested. As black women, we are faced with the added pressure to conform to beauty standards, which overwhelmingly favor a Eurocentric aesthetic.
This is a blog where I will attempt to find out who I am through prayer and healing. hope to provide healing and inspiration for black women and all women. In case you haven’t noticed the title of our blog is scripture from Some of my favorite scriptures: 1 Peter 3:3-4 and Song of Solomon 1:5. These inspiring and beautiful verses keep me grounded when I feel like everywhere I turn, Black women are under attack.
I used to have separate blogs. One where I discussed Christian issues, with an emphasis on the spiritual battles that Black women deal with and one that discussed secular issues, like sex, internet bashing, beauty standards, movies, self-esteem, interracial dating and all of those others issues that impact me and many others on a daily basis. My old Christian blog is titled “blackyetlovely.wordpress.com” It was taken from the Song of Solomon. If aren’t familiar click the link above. However, I decided to combine that blog with this blog because try as I might, I cannot separate my secular self from my Christian self because my Christian identity and secular identity are entwined. I may be a Christian, but I still think about sex, I still struggle with bitterness, anger and other issues. I still think about pop culture and I still struggle with beauty standards. These are not just secular issues, they are intimately connected to my spiritual life and I must address ALL of myself, if I want to move forward with my journey. So here on this blog, you will find that I will quote scripture and then in the next paragraph, maybe I’ll discuss sex explicitly because that’s my reality. That is what I struggle with and I can’t lie to myself anymore and have the alternate, disconnected lives going on. My Spiritual and secular life are entwined, they make me who I am. They are part of my identity. If I want to heal, I have to see myself in all it’s entirety. I am not proud of everything that I think and desire, but I have to get it out of me and address it to move forward.
Anyway, about me personally. I am a Christian Black woman. I grew up in predominately white enviorment where I often felt ashamed of being black. I tried to conform to society’s expectations for me, yet I was ashamed of being who I truly was. I am learning to embrace who I am because I am made in God’s image. Sometimes when I hear all the negativity and I experience the hardships that come from being black, I get angry. I am hoping to manage my anger through prayer and now blogging. I hope this blog can be a positive outlet where I can disseminate information and reflect on my experiences, without being negative. The title of my blog comes from the fact that I hope to get people to reject the notion that any positive trait in a black woman (or black person) is to be attributed to something ‘white’ about them. Just because a black woman is beautiful, intelligent and articulate does not make her a “white girl dipped in chocolate.” I am a black woman period.
Although this blog will mostly focus on my experiences as a black woman, I will also write on other topics as I please. All people are welcome to comment in a respectful manner.