Black Women Aren’t Valued Because Black People Are Poor…

Sometimes, I just get enraged when I think about the way that Black people, especially Black women are mistreated.I’ll be fine and then something will trigger my anger, it can be a news report, a book, a movie, a comment muttered in public, a racial slur…and I’ll become so angry that it feels like I’m burning on the inside. It’s not a pleasant experience at all.

Yesterday, I posted the story about the Black woman who was shot by police, while holding a fake gun and I mentioned the lack of coverage by media outlets and the lack of support from the Black community.

Black people are not valued and Black women are even less valued. I believe the reason Black people are not valued is because Black people do not have any economic infrastructure. We are dependent on white (or asian) people for too much and we give our money away too eagerly.

Black people are a poor group, as a collective we are a poor racial group. We are more likely to be poor and more likely to be in prison. We do not control enough business, we do not control banks, we do not control media and our neighborhoods are colonized. Even middle class Black people spend most of their money outside the Black community. Even the hair care industry is controlled largely by non-black people. Although, since natural hair has made  comeback, more Black small business owners are seeing a boom in business. However, how long will it be before white corporations infiltrate the natural hair care industry and try to peddle us products and drive small black companies out of business.

I make a conscious effort to purchase my natural hair products from black owned companies like oyin handmade and Naturalicious, but unfortunately white companies are already starting to take notice of the natural hair tend and I’m sure it’s just a matter of time before massive cosmetics companies buy out and overtake small, black businesses. Sheamoisture, recently sold half their company to a white corporation. I wish I could say that Black people would support Black business, but it doesn’t seem so.

I hear so many negative remarks from Black people about black business being “ghetto” or not wanting to support a business that is owned by a Black person. Unfortunately, many Black people aspire to belong in white society. That means living in a white neighborhood, going to white schools, belonging to white clubs and fraternities, marrying white people and often times as soon as Black people earn some money, the first thing we do is move to the white neighborhoods (even though often times we’re not wanted there) send our kids to white schools, join white organizations and now a days some Black people aspire to marry white people not because they’re so madly in love, but because they’re indoctrinated with the belief that anything white is superior. I am sure we can all think of some Black men (and Black women) who have this mentality.

Consequently, Black people are poor because we don’t support black business, generally speaking and we don’t conserve our money and invest in our communities.

So of course when you’re poor, you have less power and influence. SO, Black women aren’t valued because we’re at the bottom of the economic totem pole, so we don’t control our media representation (which is why some people view us as unattractive, asexual and inferior mammies/jezebels), we don’t control the prison system (which is why we’re going to prison at a faster rate than any group), we don’t control the education system (which is why so many black children are failing in school).

As long as we have weak economic infrastructure and as long as we continue to uphold white supremacy, Black women won’t be valued and when we get beaten up by police officers, when we get killed, when we get trafficked, when we go missing, no one will care or very few will.

So what do I as a Black woman do, I deeply resent this system, yet what can I do? If I am not valued as a Black woman, within my own community, if Black men are missing by and large from the community because of the racist prison industrial complex, where does that leave me? Where does it leave other Black women?

Do we keep fighting and marching with little to no support?…or do we live our own lives? This is a deep conflict within me. I feel like there’s so little support for Black women in the black community that…and I feel incredibly guilty for saying this…sometimes I just wonder if it’s worth even trying, why not just settle marry whatever race of man and live in his world, his community and let it all go.

But, for one thing, there is a part of me, that if I married a non-black, namely white man, would feel deeply resentful of his privilege and I know that I would never be fully accepted into his world and I also know that I could never truly disconnect myself from my Black people.

So, what do I do?

Does anyone else feel this way?

 

 

 

 

Black Women Aren’t Valued Because Black People Are Poor…

6 thoughts on “Black Women Aren’t Valued Because Black People Are Poor…

  1. Omay Farlane says:

    Yes! When it comes to Black Women it is as we’re just invisible from the moment we’re born ’til we die. We don’t experience good normal good experiences and milestones like Caucasian, Asian, even Latinas had. Instead, it’s a road of thorns and broken glass on the ground and when we grew tired of the cuts and bruises, either we act defiantly with hate and resentment or either we give up and bleed. Even with the so-called “feminazi” movement, it doesn’t help Black women at all, instead they’re just using them and being fooled for their own personal agenda. Society has been shunning so much of our talents and our skills that our self-esteem is in the bottom. Bad experiences, traumatic events incapacitates Black women’s destiny and purpose.

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  2. Tan says:

    The best thing a black women can do is to save herself. The sad reality is that the black community as a whole does not value us. Black women should seek to put themselves in a position to create a better life from themselves and their children. It begins by making changes to their environment. Leave unsafe neighborhoods, unfortunately these are most often than not black neighborhoods. Choose mates based upon the content of their characters not the color of their skin. Protect your womb from men who don’t value them enough to marry them and raise their families. Stop supporting people who don’t support you as an individual. Get your education and stop believing the lie that you should help a brother out. You can’t help someone who is not trying to help themselves. They only will bring you down with them. We should stop coddling black men. Look around you, black men who find success usually will find a non-black women to share it with. They will imprenate black woman and leave her figure it out. It is time for us wake up!!! You are the master of your destiny. Stop leaving it up to people who will watch and even cheer when you suffer but wants you to rally for them when they suffer.

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  3. Ebonychic205 says:

    I don’t know if I can cosign the fact that black women are ignored and mistreated because the community is poor. This same “poor” community has no problem rallying and spending money to support black men and boys. Other minority communities suffer economically as well but their communities have no problem shedding some light on the women as well as the men.
    It shouldn’t take us to be “rich” to care about black women and girls, if anything that’s as contradiction. It should be if we’re struggling it should cause more concern for black women because a natural instinct should kick in, by wanting to protect more. The alienation and ignoring of black women in this community has gone on forever, it’s a reoccurring theme with no ending.

    The black community is just extremely patriarchal. The men come first, the boys, and the women and girls are waaaaay at the bottom. It’s time for black women to accept reality, there’s no reciprocity so it’s time for black women to just care for ourselves. Not black men, not the whole community, not other communities but ourselves. We’ve been battling and fighting without anyone’s help for this long so it won’t hurt to continue doing it.

    Put yourselves first black women.

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  4. Charity Dell says:

    These topics will always be of perennial interest to us, women of African descent. Having grown up in two worlds simultaneously (black family, black church and white schools/predominantly white neighborhood), I can fully understand how we may feel, pulled one way or another. However, I would like to state that black women have the right to marry anyone they choose, and we should not let people bully us into accepting or not choosing whom we desire to marry. I have grown weary of the multiplicity of articles that tell black women whom they should and shouldn’t marry, and those articles that castigate black women for wanting partners who mirror their own academic and professional achievements, and/or religious values. Only black women are expected to “just take anything”; no other ethnic group of women is told they ought to “just accept a bruthuh” regardless of his value set, skill set or education! 1.For many college-educated and upwardly mobile black women, marrying a person of equal educational and/or professional level may only be possible with those males outside her immediate ethnic group, for various reasons.
    2. Black women tend to outnumber black men in large proportions, sometimes as much as 2 to 1 or 3 to 1 (or even higher ratios) in particular communities. Black women who do not live in black communities or attend predominantly black houses of worship typically marry those whom they may have met at the workplace, on vacations, in arts groups (performing, fine or literary), in academic settings, etc. In these settings, what a couple have in common will usually be a major part of the mutual attraction. For the millions of us who DO attend Black houses of worship, we still tend to outnumber black males in the congregation. Many black women attend large multicultural churches, and so are finding mates of different ethnic groups at these houses of worship.Many other black women may attend synagogues, temples or mosques of other faiths; there may be few black males at these houses of worship, as well.
    3. Many black women are marrying Latino, Asian, and Native American males, in addition to
    European and/or Euro-American males. Some also marry Afro-Carribean and African males.
    Again, most of these black women are marrying males at equal educational and professional levels,
    so many of these women are not necessarily marrying out to marry “up”; many of these marriages are actually “lateral moves” in socioeconomic terms.
    4. Most black women who marry out tend to have a strong sense of self, ethnic identity and cultural awareness, and their partners typically do not feel threatened by their “Africanness”. Many of the non-black partners also bring their own strong sense of ethnicity or cultural heritage with them. Typically, if a non-black male decides to MARRY a black woman–as opposed to” just dating” or “just having sex with” a black woman, this male risks disapproval by family/relatives and may also be “punished” at the workplace by loss of privilege, promotions or even employment itself. Thus, the non-black husband must have–and typically DOES have– a strong emotional and psychological investment in the marriage.
    5. While it is true that prior slavery and colonialization shaped the relationships between European, Euro-American and Euro-Brasileiro men and Afro-descendente women, it does not necessarily follow that ALL women of color are looking for the “magical white man” to “make everything better” by giving them “pretty children” of lighter skin color. We need to listen to the individual stories of
    Afro-descended women before judging all of them of buying into a colonial system of color values.
    More non-black men are giving themselves permission to MARRY black women and are realizing that their “dream mate” does not have to have blue eyes, flaxen hair and alabaster skin. Black women who have a strong sense of cultural identity and individual values are certainly attractive–and worthy of being seen as MARRIAGE partners–as any other women on this planet!

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  5. The Alchemist says:

    “…So what do I as a Black woman do, I deeply resent this system, yet what can I do? If I am not valued as a Black woman, within my own community, if Black men are missing by and large from the community because of the racist prison industrial complex, where does that leave me? Where does it leave other Black women?”…
    Black men are not missing. They are present enough to: molest 60% of black girls, impregnate and abandon black mothers, and murder black women at high rates. We are vulnerable because black men have allow other people to prey on us. Check out this article by a black man called “Why Do We Hate Black Women?”
    http://www.mhaynes.org/blog/2015/7/22/why-do-we-hate-black-women

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