I am a Black woman who feels a fondness for Black men, there is no denying that. I feel that I have a kinship with them and we share a history and background that is unmatched by other cultures and ethnities. However, as I’ve matured, I have become more open to other races of men and I have realized that above all, it’s most important to be with a man who respects you and cares for you…color aside.
I just read a series of articles critiquing an article by a Black woman who discussed the reasons why she didn’t want to sleep with a white man. First, I support Black women’s right to sleep with or not to sleep with whomever she wants. I can understand why some Black women prefer Black men and I can respect a Black woman’s right to be with whomever she chooses. I also can understand and support Black women who are open to all races of men and who like to have relationships with non-Black men.
My main focus is Black women being content and respected as women. I want Black women to be with men who respect, love and care for them, regardless of color.
I can also understand how some Black women would be hesistant to be involved with non-Black men, especially white men. We have a horrible history and race relations in the West are still very sour.
So, I can understand how some Black women feel in terms of white men, I’ve had my reservations about white men before myself…and this is why I just can’t get with “The Something New Crew,” you know the group of Black women who focus solely on white men as a superior alternative to Black women’s relationship woes. I think Black women should go wherever we’re respected and feel loved…whether that is with a Black man, white or asian. No one is superior to another.
I do not want to read stories about how perfect white men are anymore than I want to read stories about how Black men are perfect kings. The reality is, men are men. Black men aren’t perfect and white men aren’t perfect and I think that is how I, as a Black woman, am starting to look at men.
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In the case of the young Biracial-Black woman in Toronto who feels she was used by white men for sex, I can certainly understand her feelings and in this case she was justified in feeling objectified.
However, speaking in general, can you tell the difference between when a non-black man is interested in you as a woman…and when he is objectifying you?
How do you all feel about receiving sexual attention from non-black men?
read story: http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/reasons-white-guys-black-women-limits/