Blackpeoplemeet.com Is NOT Racist: White People Not Everything is About You!

 

Blackpeoplemeet is not racist. On the surface to oblivious white-indentified people, it may seem like it’s racist, but the reality is, we live in a society where white is the default. When I, as a Black woman, go on a dating website and I see every box checked, except Black or I see commercials advertised for dating websites like match.com or Ok Cupid and there are only white people portrayed, where does that leave people, such as myself who are Black?

White people have the privilege of seeing people who look like them, all of the time on television, in movies, in magazines and other forms of media. Most white people grow up in white neighborhoods, work around majority other white people, go to white schools and white house of worship. I, on the other hand, spend my whole life being the token minority. I went to a majoirty white school, attended a white college and lived in a white neighborhood. I had deal my whole life being seen as “the other,” or the “token.” I had to confront stereotypes held by my white classmates, coworkers and contemporaries on my own for the most part. I had to go on website after website like Ok Cupid or Match.com and see every box checked except Black. There was a study done by Ok Cupid that said that Black women got the least responses back from men.

We do not live in an equal society, but many white people do not see this because their white privilege affords them the right to be oblivious to the fact that white is the default ethnicity.

So, it’s very odd that some white people would be offended by a website that is designed for Black people, but does not explicity bar white people from joining…unlike the country club that I was banned from joining because they explicitly didn’t allow non-white people or non-christians to join.

Blackpeoplemeet is not about excluding white people, it’s about giving Black people a space where we don’t have to worry about being looked down on because we’re Black. It’s about acceptance and being around other people who share our culture and experiences. Like it or not, Black people have our own unique culture and we have experiences thar relate to our race, that white people just will not understand because they have not lived as a Black person. It is necessary to have places like Blackpeoplemeet where Black people can feel safe and accepted in a very Eurocentric society. I don’t have to worry about the “everything, but Black,” box being checked on blackpeoplemeet.com

Still not understanding…look at it from this perspective. This may be a trite example, but if you attend an arts and crafts class and every single class, you knit, you have knitting circles and knitting parities. But you don’t knit, you only sew. So you are unable to participate and enjoy the arts and crafts classes and you can never go to the knitting parties, you can never participate in the HOliday knitting parties where you make socks and scarves. So, you create a “sewing club,” for people who like to sew. Wouldn’t it be silly for the knitters to tell you that it was unfair of you to have a sewing club when all you do is knit and have knitting parities in arts and crafts class every day.

Most people with common sense, would understand that it’s only fair that people who are sewers should be able to have a place where they can sew because in arts and crafts all you ever do is knit.

It’s the same scenario with Blackpeoplemeet, only add to that a complex history and inequalities that still exist in this day…to haven an even more intense scenario than the arts and crafts club.

I just think it’s very myopic and insensitive for some white people to castigate blackpeoplemeet.com when all of society is whitepeoplemeet, every day, all day…white people have the privilege of being able to join the “whitepeoplemeet,” club everyday of their lives.

With that being said, I’ll be joining blackpeoplemeet very soon.

 

 

 

 

Blackpeoplemeet.com Is NOT Racist: White People Not Everything is About You!

141 thoughts on “Blackpeoplemeet.com Is NOT Racist: White People Not Everything is About You!

    1. Margaret says:

      Happy Holidays, thank you so much for your supportive comment. We see that it has taken us as a “Culture” of “African American” people to have fought for the “Rights” that came to others so easily, for every thing that was important. In the History of our “Ancestors” who died just so we could have the “Right” to get an education with “White” America it was a horrible time back then. But this conversation puts us in a different place. That we as “African Americans” want to be dating our ouwn Culture. Thank you so much.

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      1. john says:

        I’m married to a black woman as well and am white. My only suggestion is if there was a site called white people meet.com. it would be considered racist. Also. Isn’t the saying at top. ( white people not everything is about you racist?). Observe if you switch white with black. Others would associate it as racist. Just wish people would stop seeing like a dog.. Always seen g black n white. Look at people as people not as black old white. Everyone nowadays has a lil of everyone in them somewhere along the line. Its just obserd for that site to be named that. I feel the same with bet. Love it but again . its the name. Why do people see so much need to put there race in everything. Its stupid. … Just be a person and stop trying to come up with ways to make it a out a single race. I thought all that sht was over years ago. Guess not. As long as there r stupid people in the world there will always be ignorant ideas. And as for her racist comment about not e erytbing is about white people. That just makes u sound so mentally challenged its redundant. Its 2014. Not 1980 where black and white were frowned at for dating. Think about the name in general. Not the concept. Whitepeoplemeet.com. no one should dare name a site that. So why would someone name black people meet.com. so if I go there to meet a pretty black girl if I wasn’t married to one. Would I be mistreated because of my color being as the girl said…. Default color. Where’s the handbook that saying white is default…. I mean I sick of dumbassds being racist n not even knowing it. It will argue the fact when approached about it. What a moronic site with such racist values. All dating sites r dumb. It this one takes the cake just for only accept a certain race. WOW

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      2. john says:

        I am 100% positive that white people died for your rights during the civil war FYI. But of course you would act as if you did it on your own. Do you recall Abraham Lincoln. He was white and started the procedure leading to the slavery freedom. So easily stupid people forget the facts.

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      3. Christ says:

        I am 100% positive that white people died for your rights during the civil war also idiot. Way to take glory that you or me weren’t even apart of.

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    2. Matt says:

      I’m usually apolitical but there is little not even a neutrino sized room for argument on that if there was a whitepeoplemeet people would be up in arms about white supremacy and blah blah blah blah. This website is racist but understandably so. If people want to meet people with the same kind of descent for their akin values and practices then so be it. However, don’t be in the stage of denial that this race exclusive not have been accosted so warmly by mainstream media if it was for whites. People pluck that race card out at every afforded opportunity for a decadent pity party.

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      1. How can rascism be ” understandable” for blacks, but not for whites? Make up your mind. Either rascism is morally wrong or its alright for EVERY race or ethnicity to openly seek out their own kind. Anything else is pure hypocracy.

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    3. Who cares says:

      black people meet is racist based on the simple fact that it is designed to exclude other races. If there was a white people meet you bet al sharp ton would be running his mouth non stop. Black people are the most racist people i have ever met. They cry all day about injustice and then are THE MOST racist towards other people. Uh hellooooo, you reap what you sow. bitch

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      1. Actually, we really wouldn’t care….a website for white ppl to date doesn’t pose any threat to anyone. And black ppl don’t give a flying fuck about Sharpton, to be clear.

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  1. Hey Peanut,

    Excellent examples and commentary!

    I could be wrong, but the salt being thrown seems to come mostly from white women. White women that claim that they will not have a shot at a certain man of color. Yet, these are the same white women who wouldn’t have thought about dating a man of color (Black) until more Black women had the opportunity to do so (blackpeoplemeet.com). I find this very sick and pathological. This is all a part of abusing Black women to keep us in our place–silent, fearful and long-suffering. How dare we and Black men place a premium on our skills, talent, looks and experiences? How dare we start defining our own style (vintage, retro, natural hair, turbans, goth, nerdy) to appeal to Black men?

    I am no longer a dater myself (happily hitched!), but yes, i would encourage Black men and women who want to meet each other to join up and let that site and other venues where Black people frequent be your oyster!

    Forget these psychotic whites–what is it to them in the first place!?

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    1. Danny says:

      Yes because white women care what black women have. We don’t have to keep your race down. The wannabe gangster ones are doing just fine at that. It’s dumb that your so far gone in the head that you think white women are taking time out of their day to bring you down. You should grow up and realize the only people bringing your race down is the ones in the ghetto killing each other selling crack to they’re own people and robbing, stealing and burglarizing they’re own people. So why don’t you do something to help your race and make it better instead of trying to blame everybody else for y’all’s problems like y’all have been doing for decades.

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      1. And you care about Blacks so much, why are you on here? Why are you so obsessed with Black people so much if you hate them so much.

        Typical White American male trash. I guess I have to take out the trash! lol!

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    2. NotMyName says:

      Phoebeprunelle, Adeen, American English……..I wish you could just for a second see how ignorant you are. You are the one’s that are keeping racism alive, preventing it from fading away like it otherwise would.

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    3. Ravyn says:

      As a native american (white) woman, happily married to a white man, let me tell you “what it is to me in the first place.”
      The issue is that if you have light skin you are automatically considered racist. It is 100% true that if someone started a dating site called whitepeoplemeet.com there would be a national upheaval. You cannot deny that fact.
      Regardless of what you may think, “white” people are not privileged. If anything we are repressed in today’s society. Anything “we” say or do to defend ourselves against that is considered racist. At THIS juncture in American history, the “minorities” (African American, Asian, Hispanic, etc) have more rights than Caucasian peoples.
      I, as a Native American, feel everyone in this country should be treated equally and nobody should have to pay for what their ancestors did or didn’t do.
      Why am I considered a racist? My people never owned slaves. Africans sold their own people into slavery. American settlers brought those slaves here. American (white) soldiers fought for the freedom of those slaves (before ever releasing MY people from reservations, aka prison camps). Yet, even nativeamericansmeet.com would be considered racist.
      I suppose the main issueissue is – why is it ok for your people to have a race oriented dating site and not ok for any other race to do the same?

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    4. You are totally ignoring the germaine issue. Is this racist and if not, is it also alright for whites to have groups for whites only? If so, does that exclusivity extend to country clubs, law firms, and private colleges? If you’re not a hypocrite, you’ll say yes, but I doubt you will. Racism is morally wrong. Anyone who endorses it is the true psychotic.

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  2. Awesome post! The amazing thing is that they really don’t actually care. They don’t like black ppl dating each other and they don’t like blk ppl dating them. It’s stupid. It’s amazing to me when i got to blackplanet.com to the chat rooms and see rooms called white woman for blk men. I went in once because i was curious about blk men who come on blk sites to meet white women and white women who flock to black sites to meet black men. I got more than i bargained for because the blk men as well as the white womem repeatedly asked why I, a black woman was in the chat room. I can get why the men asked but white women asked me on a website called blackplanet why i was in that room, yet they were welcomed in all the rooms. They came in a black space, claimed a spot, and kicked black women out. Think about that for a second.

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    1. Andi says:

      I would like to believe we are working toward a world that does not have “white space” or “black space” or “purple, spotted, brown, blue…space”. What are you fighting for? Self segregation will only serve preserve the belief that color matters, when it shouldn’t.

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      1. Andi, its not about self segregation. Its about being some place in the world, on the Internet that doesn’t treat me like having black skin is a disease, where I don’t have to answer questions like you are asking me right now.

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      2. Kevin says:

        BOOM. Segregation laws ended years ago. When can we live in a world without beliefs that are hundreds of years old?

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    1. “Why are you here? Didn’t you read the title of the chat? This chat is for blk men and white women. The men in here don’t want you. Another hater juat came in.” Thing is, if I came in the room and said nothing or no man in the room greeted me, I was ignored. However, if one of the blk men in the room said hello to me they would all make the above statements and questions or something similar. The blk men never defended me I don’t care how rude or mean they became.

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      1. Ellis says:

        The black men didn’t even defend you!!! They are worthless POS. I don’t care if anyone is offended by that. How the hell are there Black men who don’t defend their women!!!!?? And the nerve of those White women asking you those kind of questions on a Black dating site. The cheek. They need to get out of our spaces if they have nothing good to contribute. I grow more and more frustrated with this group of “people”.

        How emba
        Rrassing for you. I feel for you.
        I am so sorry that you had to exoerience that. That is incredibly embarrassing.

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      2. You should find other Black men that appreciate you or date out. Don’t focus on those idiotic men. And I don’t see why cave bitches come on BlackpeopleMeet. It is a site for Black men and Black women to meet and find a good date. Not cave bitches and Black males meet.

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      3. Jessica says:

        The room was identified for white women and black men, its understandable to question why your there (to your comment made above: they werent kicking you out as you werent suppose to be in there so this white women coming in to take your spot stuff isnt really fair) Also if a girl came in and started on a table of guys you were working, youd become territorial as well. The same behavior would be seen if the situation was backwards and you were white. You also seem to be delusional as to the fact that you are indeed self segregating. Thats all it, you can call it making your “own space” but its racist and you cant cry when white poeple do it (country club)

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      4. First of all, this was not a private room, which are there and made for the purpose of inviting and kicking out people you don’t want in there. Secondly, i was quiet in the room. Didn’t say anything or impose on anyone. The men in the room simply said hello to me and I got attacked verbally by these white women immediately saying racist and disgusting things to me. For you to justify that speaks a lot into your character.

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  3. AnthonyLT says:

    I’m confused by this post. So what about what white people think. We don’t have to explain ourselves to them. I think that feeling compelled to do so is a vestige of the legacy of slavery and white supremacy. But, the nerve of white women objecting to a black woman being in a chat room on a black-focused website — that’s classic white privilege at work. The truly disgusting thought is how the black men are trolling a black-focused site, searching for white love and having the nerve to kick a sista out — WTF?

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    1. Drew says:

      White privilege? If anything, white people have little to no privileges. Black people have way more privilege in today’s society. Not to mention that you can pull the race card and get out of damn near everything. White cop arrests a black male, even if he’s in the middle of stabbing someone in the chest: Automatically a hate crime. Black male doesn’t get hired because he failed his drug test? Employers are racist. Black male is driving 60 in a 45 and gets pulled over? “Its cuz I’m black”. The black privilege in today’s society is absolute bullshit. Don’t even try to say that we have white privilege.

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  4. @Ellis, the problem though is Blackplanet is owned and operated by Asians, so it really was not a safe haven for us to begin with and blackpeoplemeet is not owned by Blacks either.

    Either way it goes, until we launch our own relationship sites and make them exclusive–then others (mainly whites) will ALWAYS invade, intrude and create division.

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    1. Ellis says:

      Really, those websites are not black-owned? Despite the fact that they are supposed to cater to us? Not surprised really, I live in the UK and there are black hair shops owned by people by Indian/Pakistani (in the UK they are referred to as “Asians”. Same thing that goes on in the US. Plus, what is is it with some businesses that cater to Blacks being owned by non-Blacks? Can’t believe that BET and Essence are no longer black-owned.

      I agree with you that if we owned our own black dating site non-blacks

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      1. Ellis says:

        Part 2.

        Mainly Whites would troll and create hostility. Gosh, we can’t have anything positive without some Whites who want to create tension. Sigh…:(

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      2. Danny says:

        It’s about profit not about the color of your skin. They are going to open a weave/wig store for the people who use them most so they can maximize they’re profit. I think it’s funny that blacks think whites care so much about what they do we could give a fuck less if you could tell by looking it’s mostly blacks who bitch about race and bring up slavery and the past but I never hear any black people complain about the Africans that sold them to the white people. Why don’t they complain about the source. You don’t bitch about the crack addict if you want to stop the problem you bitch about the dealer who’s selling the crack.

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    2. Jeremy says:

      It sounds as though you believe it’s not a problem for a specific race of people to establish a service or start a business that prohibits other races from patronizing said establishment? I thought that the Civil Rights Act of 1964 had already addressed this issue and determined that such behavior was discriminatory and unacceptable. When did this get overturned?

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    3. sergio says:

      I am an Air Force brat, my dad is African American and my mom is Dutch and Italian who he met in Holland. I find blackpeoplemeet.com EXTREMELY offensive, outdated, ungodly and ignorant. This is especially offensive to people who are of multi-ethnic backgrounds – like myself. Look at the schools today, many of the kids come from a vary of ethnicity. I mean no disrespect, but the BET’s, and TVone’s and of course blackpeoplemeet.com seem to cater to the ghetto and the downtrodden.

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      1. idk why this would be offensive to u. it is not making people be together that don’t want to. Blackpeoplemeet does not take black people away from white people.matter of fact there are whites with profiles on there as well as a white man owns the website. If it caters to the ghetto and downtrodden why even care, u won’t see me giving a dam about farmersonly.com, cmt or any other website I think is redneck ish.
        blackpeoplemeet does not prevent blacks from having biracial kids so don’t worry. There are plenty of websites promoting interracial love and sex but no outrage. I guess black people being together is a huge concern to people for whatever reason. One minute they are saying how ugly and undesirable black people are and doing studies showing how we don’t get picked, the next its omg it’s racist and offensive for a website to cater to the people that don’t have luck on the mainstream dating websites.

        again what people fail to see or don’t want to acknowledge is it is a WHITE man that owns the website and had it created because he saw a market for it.

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  5. @Cleonette,

    I don’t know if you noticed, but back in the day, MOST of the white women who had pages on Blackplanet, were busted up (looked like modern meth addicts) or grossly overweight…

    Go figure.

    Same for whitewomenblackmen.com–hilarious!

    The reality is that when a site is marketing towards Black singles exclusively–it is going to usually attract professional, attractive, and fit Black men and Black women who are serious about meeting one another that they don’t have the opportunity to otherwise. I think this says why those white women on BP did that. They were competing with premium Black women for premium Black men…

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    1. ............. says:

      that’s because most white women who date black men can’t get white men cause their unattractive so they settle for less

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  6. @phoebeprunelle The women were a bit on the rough side. But they still got men, not men I would have dated, however. Thing is, I never understood why these men would give these women a pass but would not date a black woman with those same features. There are numerous interracial dating sites so it was just crazy to me that I would get treated like that in a space created for me where they were welcomed freely. They tell blacks to get their own stuff, then when we have it they say its racist or they invade it. I really need to lay off these sites because my biases are starting to grow….

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  7. i love that pic of that beautiful sista drenched in honey. yes blackpeoplemeet is not racist, whites need to get over themselves. just like we need black history month we need black dating websites, but whites will always say what about us? what about them, everyday is white history and white dating. i peeked in at black ppl meet at the singles in my area and a lot of them looked like they were there for a hook up or had some goofy username smh. I saw two goofy white guys profile in there smh.one named whitepowder smdh lol. oh lord some of them look fruity as hell.

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    1. yep, but even then they still infiltrate it and are like omg that is racist. really yall own everything and it’s racist for us to specifically say for black ppl. Its not like we say this is for black ppl only, but they have had things for white ppl only. our stuff says for black ppl yet everyone usually is free to join.Yet we the racist ones gtfoh.

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  8. @ torontogirl

    yes, smh, that is his name, we can’t even have a website for us without them popping in with their lame names. Its always the goofy and wigger lookin white ppl, they think we want their bottom of the barrel ass, sorry but a white boy copying black ppl’s style doesn’t do it for me, I don’t want a dam copy.

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  9. Dan says:

    I see your points, but if a white person made “noblackpeoplehere.com” or whatever it would be considered racist. The reason behind bpm.com is a very valid reason, to have majority of the people you want to meet there, THAT in itself is NOT racist, it’s the double standard that people have the problem with. White people are not really privileged anymore, while this was true years ago, and SOME residual effects are still simmering, it just sounds petty to say whites get more than blacks when blacks have their own college funds, all sorts of groups and community and national organizations ONLY for black people, and even their own history month. Not that anybody here in particular would care, I don’t know anyone, but if I made an “exclusively white college fund” SOMEBODY would cry, I’d be sued for discrimination, be dubbed a racist, only because I would be trying to give white people the same opportunities that the black college fund enjoy. Truth is, there are motives to keep racism a topic and a problem, even when it’s not (it exists still to idiot white ppl obviously) but on average it’s going way down. The image of “Inequality” provides opportunities to gain an advantage over the regular populace by special treatment. Until nobody needs special treatment, it will remain a “problem”

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    1. @Dan

      Whites are still privileged and don’t have the go through the stereotypes, discrimination and racism that Blacks and other minorities go through. You and your people are paranoid and going crazy because your population is dwindling and you guys fear losing your privileges. It is funny how you think that ”Whites aren’t privileged anymore”. They still are but you fear losing your privileges because of your dwindling population and the fact that a Black man has been elected twice for the first time in history. And you guys want to be on top economically, socially and politically.

      Sorry desperado, that wouldn’t be the case for long!

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      1. I think its funny How white people think The world revolves around them, black women want their black men just like white women want black dick its NEVER gonna change. The most racist white people tan The most!remember that #colorisbetter!

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  10. jeff says:

    I’m glad to see you are proud.I do see that blackpeoplemeet is racist though,it is so because of the adjective black referring generically to a specific group. Diversify and appreciate people for whats inside.
    And DO keep your pride.GL

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  11. Danny says:

    That’s funny because if there was a site called whitepeoplemeet.com not all but a lot of blacks would whine like they always do about white people being racist because it’s not for any other race. This has been proven in past time that blacks think something is ok for them to do but not white people. Just like when blacks are calling whites racist at the same time calling them honkeys crackers and a bunch of other dumb shit that makes them look dumb as hell and hypocritical. It might not be racist but when whites do the same thing which they have in the past it gets shut down because of some black people whining about it.

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    1. Whites have oppressed, marginalized and treated Black people badly for centuries and they still continue to do so. You are an oppressor and whenever a White person like you has an all White site and places it is to exclude people of color.

      And as a Black woman, I like this site because I don’t like or desire White men and because most races of people prefer their own people.

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      1. ladre says:

        You dumb bitch… I bet you dumb mother fuckers would freak out if there was a white entertainment channel or a whitepeoplemeet…. God, you wonder why people are racist cause you back like a bunch of niggers!

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      2. @Iadre. I don’t care how rascist a WEBSITE appears, there is no need in that n word name calling. I am a white male that attended a 90% black school in Georgia. I have black friends that urge me to call them n*gga because they know I am for all races equally and know that I love them like family. Now, would it appear different if it was “whitepeoplemeet” or “white entertainment television”? Absolutely, without a doubt. But it does not make it ok to allow a website to be named a somewhat rascist phrase when reverse rascism is more common now than ever. The NAACP is for the black race, what group does the white race have in comparison? Where is white history month?

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  12. I would join BlackPeopleMeet because as a Black woman, I prefer to be with a Black man. I don’t see why White Neanderthal cave beasts get mad about this site. Most people prefer their own race and to be around their own people

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  13. Heather says:

    I understand why you belive Blackpeoplemeet.com isnt racest and I understand your point, but I belive it is.Martin luther king Jr. had a dream that people of all color and race could come together as one.He fought for the end of segregation. And so did meny Afrocan american & caucation people together.When people creat things like Blackpeoplemeet.com its saying its ok to descrimanate and exclude. Be honest if they had comercials of Whitepeoplemeet.com you would think it was racest as would I.And the 1st thing you would think of is how white people are races.Not all are.And belive it or not some afrocan amaericans are racest and this was just a small exzample of it.I know what you meen about being the minority I am cacation and go to college with all afrocan americans.They call me crackor,honky,and tones of other names.I just laugh and go with it. I made many friends there and love them.I dont see them as black or white I see them as people.I meen have you ever ate an M&M the are different colors but all tast the same.As we are all differen colores but all people.If we continue down this path you will have all of the discrimination you were trying to avoid. It is one step closer to sepret water foutens and buses.I know that it is hard to find an equel chance in dating but this is the easy answer not the right one.I do respect youre perspective and am not bashing your appnion I just want you to know mine as well. Wish you the best in your online dating.

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  14. American English says:

    Blackpeoplemeet is majority black but is open to everyone as evidenced by the number of white members. The site is Approximately 9% white. Only naive people or egocentric whites have a problem with it.

    The internet is filled with white dating sites, you have Match.com, POF, OK cupid, E-harmony. They are all majority white and the majority of users exclude black people from contacting them (which is fine). So if you’re concerned with equality please go spread your message of tolerance to your fellow whites first.

    If mainstream white dating sites are not sufficient then please feel free to create the ‘whites only’ site of your dreams. Maybe you can advertise it on stormfront or the countless of white only hate sites. I promise black people wont be outraged.

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  15. Rummer366 says:

    I don’t think it was meant to promote racism, but kinda draws a line, and I could see how it somewhat encourages racism to an extent.

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  16. Imhotep says:

    How can a website be racist?
    Why-tes are racist. They look down on non-why-tes.

    Why-tes just do not like black love. They are mutated black albinos. A black male albino (wm) is drawn to a black woman like a black man is. He feels like he is a black man. There isn’t why-te self love. All men are attracted to black women, really. The other men of color can sweep their feelings for black women under the rug a lot better. An asian man can see the beauty in an asian woman without ever thinking of a black woman. That asian man can go months without thinking about a black woman. That is not the case for why-tes, it seems. Why-te men need sites like Chimpout and Chimpmania to get over their thoughts of black women and love why-te women. The other people of color evolved from people who look like us (people without albinism). That explains it best.

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  17. Andrew Casson says:

    Blackpeoplemeet is not racist, but it is certainly discriminatory, to argue otherwise would be absurd. It’s discriminatory in the same way that Christian dating sites are discriminatory, but that’s not to say that either are bad or are anything but a boon to the online matchmaking community; how could helping people to find what they are looking for in a relationship be anything but? I disagree that this is an issue between blacks and whites, as the author’s somewhat offensive remarks indicate, but rather, in this case, between blacks and all other races, as all other races are omitted from the site’s domain name and intended clientele. But then this blog is titled ‘blacknotwhitedippedinchocolate,’ though I think they mean for that name to say dipped in black chocolate, not white. Point being, this blog seems to be dedicated to the black side of any argument between blacks and whites, regardless of what the issue is (which *is* a bit racist) and, in this case, they’re assuming, and are wrong about who this argument is between.

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    1. white ppl meet would not be racist to me. but there really is no need for it, the shows the bachelor and bachelorette are all white people looking for love, no black people have been on that show. There are many shows of whites finding love or in love, they don’t put the word white because whites are the majority in America and are therefore considered the default. So basically people are mad when race is brought up and when somebody says white, black,etc but I guess as long as people covertly just cast white and don’t say whites only it is ok. And that is how racism has changed it went from whites only signs to now where they cast or have all white shows and places but they don’t put a sign up stating hey this is for whites only. Black people meet is not owned by blacks so take it up with whomever created it, second whites have profiles on there as well, they are not excluded.

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  18. I think you have really done a great job with this article. As a young, white, male, i have never had to think about my skin color. Because i always surrounded by white people, it just seems “normal” to have white skin. The only time that i am aware of my race is when i am surrounded by black people. As you point out, this is how it is for black people most of the time. A black person is almost always a minority when in a school, in the workplace, or simply when out and about town.. I really agree with your observation that the whole country is basically a white people meet. It is like how some people complain about there being Black Entertainment Television but no white counterpart. What those people choose to ignore is that just about every channel is White Entertainment television. T.V. needs to have more black people in prominent roles such as doctors, lawyers, and business men/women. This way, children will not get any ideas about such professions being only for white people. . I have a certain level of self confidence and self assurance that comes from being white. Everyone, no matter their race, should be able to have this confidence. Black people meet is a way of providing a comfortable atmosphere to black people so that they can have that self assurance.

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    1. Peanut says:

      thank you for your comment and open-mindedness Liam. Yes, it takes courage to admit when there is such a thing as white privilege as a white male.

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    2. Peanut says:

      and to be honest, it seems like the same people who check the everything but black women box are the first people complaining when things like blackpeoplemeet are created. these same people will holler that it’s just their preference, you can’t be political correct about preference. i think it is ridiculous. i actually do not believe in policing people’s preferences, so if someone wants to check every box, but black box (for whatever reason) that is their right, but i find it kind of silly to be upset about it when sites like blackpeoplemeet come up.

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  19. Hana says:

    I’m black, and I still find this site ridiculous. If there was a white people meet.com, everyone would be in an uproar! Its pathetic. I don’t automatically assume black men are better looking and better personalities. I have a blind eye to color. Mlk would be disappointed in this generation.

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    1. nobody said black men were better, mlk would be disappointed in this generation but not because of a dam website, he would be more disappointed in the deaths of people and vra getting struck down, stop and frisk,etc. if u have a blind eye to color why use the word black to describe urself. most ppl on here have said they don’t care if white ppl have a website for white ppl to meet, I know I don’t give a dam. hell there’s websites for whites to meet Asians and I still don’t give a dam.

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    2. Peanut says:

      if you know you’er black, then you’er not colorblind. go and tell the people on match.com and occupied who select every race, but black that you’re colorblind and see if they care…

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  20. It is racist you stupid it was invented by why white people in my opinion to prevent the non violent eradication of the white from moving too quickly wake up stupid don’t give them any amo pretty soon they will get away with all sorts of racist things look at the nword that use to be automatic no no I’m glad it has become something els but don’t forget the history

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  21. Manda says:

    Thank you for writing this article. I’m a white woman who was kind of taken aback the first time I saw a blackpeoplemeet.com commercial. My knee jerk reaction was, “Huh, that seems kinda racist”. The idea of dating only within one’s ethnic group always seemed wrong to me. But you’re right, I was looking at it through the eyes of the privileged class and that assumption was pretty crappy. Thanks for the reality check. Hope you meet someone nice on the site. 🙂

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  22. Anthony Howard says:

    For the white people that are getting butthurt over blackpeoplemeet.com, since you think the world revolves around you, please just make a whitepeoplemeet.com…. would that make you feel better??…. God, you guys have been given everything since your ancestors stole this land from Native Americans so why get all mad and stupid over a website???.

    You people get mad when black and white mix, now your getting mad because we want to meet more black people.

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  23. Shelby says:

    So WhitePeopleMeet.com isn’t racist right? Or are we not allowed to do that because it’s so “easy” for white people to find someone?

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  24. American English says:

    You’re allowed to do whatever you want now go start your damn site and quit crying.
    You hate blacks dating whites but you also hate blacks dating blacks wtf?

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  25. plz go make a whitepeoplemeet website, plz I beg u. I will not give an f. too much talk now get to it. if al Sharpton and them give u lip tell them I gave u the black seal of approval. or better yet u can go to stromfront or wherever and ask them to help u create a website for white singles only. Trust that the only black people that will complain will only be the dumb ones and the ones that want to date whites and are scared of being excluded from pursing becky and tom. the real black people will not give a single ounce of a fk. hell if I knew how to create a website i’d create it for yall… and charge $5 per member, that’s right i’d get rich off of white love. that might not be a bad idea.

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  26. lavenderbrown says:

    So what you’re saying is I can make statements like “oblivious black-identified people don’t understand how we white people feel”? Or “we’re not looking down upon black people, but we whites just want a space where we can feel comfortable with just our own”? No, I can’t, because that would be racist, just as blackpeoplemeet.com is racist.

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  27. Siegrid Ree says:

    While I don’t have a preference for same race dating. Due to the low number of blacks, roughly 10% in America, it can be hard to find black partners, if that’s your preference. I think this is a good site to segment that marketplace rather than forcing people to scour through match.com trying to find a mate that’s right for them.

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  28. Mark says:

    I would like to point out that every answer so far has immediately assumed the OP was a racist. You bypassed the original question to attack a motive that YOU as the answering party created. The question IS valid. You cannot call a site “whitepeoplemeet.com” because that IS racist. The arguments for “blackpeoplemeet.com” have been up to this point: It’s for people who like similar culture/music/lifestyle, or, white people have THEIR(racist) own sites already. My response is this. If you believe it’s ok to create a site where people who want to date people who have similar interest, I agree. If you believe it’s ok to single out one specific race of people in the name of the site, that is racist. It’s so obvious you’d have to be racist to be blind to it. And your right. Their are a ton of sites out their that have predominantly white patrons and no, none of them are named “whitepeoplemeet.com” because yes, that would be racist. I’m also fully aware that match.com is the parent company. I’m somewhat surprised that African Americans have let someone put up a sign over a dating site “colored people date here”. Are we so blinded by the leverage of the race card that we embrace open racism because it’s actually “cool” for black individuals to degrade the African American race? watch any African American comedian and you will see what I mean. They say things like “you can’t trust them” etc. Is it any wonder we are where we are? If you are black, white, Asian, or Hispanic please stop celebrating racism. If you are white. Please, as the majority in this country, stop antagonizing people with this “they” and “them” talk. “WE” are one people.

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  29. Okay, Then we should, once again, have our own White Pageants, White TV channel dedicated to us, and be able to say the “N” word if you say it to your own.

    You people are changing a country we (white people) fought very hard for. Sorry the Brits and Spaniards brought you here. Not my fault. But you WILL NOT take my country. Go back to Africa and enjoy your “roots.”

    I don’t condone slavery. However, your people are still doing it over there. Please go help.

    But get the hell outta my country. And yes, I am part Native American, the real people that got f@@ked in this deal.

    Grow up and leave. You are a loser and just wanting something not owed to you.

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  30. AMG says:

    ^^ Everything you posted has already been addressed but you feel the need to vent anyway. How is a website taking ‘your’ country? Why does it hurt your heart so much that black people have something dedicated to them? If you want a white/native only website get off your ass and go build it. No one gives a shit buddy.

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  31. AMG says:

    It’s also worth noting that no one seems to be offended by Asianpeoplemeet.com or Latinopeoplemeet.com or Jdating(jewish dating). I guess the word black will always cause a huge firestorm for certain people.

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  32. tbone79 says:

    ok..I’ve been on pof.com for years now and there is a lot of black women on there. im only interested in dating white women. so according to what u say..there shouldn’t be a problem with someone making whitepeoplemeet.com. and by the year 2040 or so whites will be the minority in this country.

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    1. AMG says:

      You only want to date white women….But here you are complaining about blackpeoplemeet. How does that make any sense?

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  33. I completely disagree with your post for the most part. While racism is still present among white people, or people that are not black, it’s obvious that there are black people that are just a racist. I mean look at the women that left the comment with her opinion that was different she is being told that her presence on this site proves racism?! How, because she has an opinion that does agree with the initial post? What about the title “White people not everything is about you ” , so everything is all about black people ? This whole thing is just dumb there are plenty of black people on other dating sites, while the Black people meet site may not exclude white people I’d bet when white people join they get harassed letting them know they are white. Either way the world has gone so far off the deep end that if a white people meet website popped up guarantee it would be considered racist. Before every starts telling me I am just another white racist I am not even white, or racist though the color of my skin shouldn’t be a factor since everyone is entitled to their own opinion regardless.

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  34. Justin whitesonly says:

    This entire rant is racist! Are you sure you went to ‘EVIL WHITEY’s’ college!? How’s this for a thought, BLACK PEOPLE ARE NOT ALWAYS THE VICTIM, so stop talking as if that’s the case! How about, instead of saying you went to “a white college”? , why not say you went to college… ( special thanks to UNCF, which is another double standard racist group by the way ).

    Then, to consider yourself held back because of where you grew up!? BE MAD AT YOUR PARENTS!, not whitey! Now that you’re ‘grown up’ do you still live in that area? Or did you move to a higher class area? Judging by your ‘rejection’ by a country club, we can reasonably assume you have moved up, Ms. Jefferson…

    Bottom line is, your perception of how the media portrays a society DOES NOT grant authority to create exclusive events! BET, Ebony Magazine, The Essence Awards, UNCF, The Black Caucus, and yes even blackpeoplemeet.com ARE ALL RACIST! If nothing more, than by applied name alone!

    Can you imagine the outcry and riots that would be if ANY of these groups were created for WHITEY !?

    Another thing! You are NOT ‘African American’! You were BORN HERE, are AMERICAN! … My guess is, never even BEEN to Africa! Your civil rights leaders fought for EQUALITY, not for additional advantages.

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    1. AMG says:

      How dare they create a dating site for black people?

      White people are totally being oppressed. I mean people should be kissing white ass forever because white is right dammit! Everyone should tolerate being marginalized by whites it’s what nature intended. Just because blacks are treated like shit on white dating sites doesn’t mean they should get a black dating site. It’s totally racist! Sure blackpeoplemeet allows all races of people to sign up and interact with each other and about 10% of the users are white…the fact the site is geared towards blacks really hurts my delicate feelings. The site must be banned immediately or I’m writing my congressman.

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  35. Fed up says:

    After all that shit 40 50 years ago means we all have equal rights. If we are all equal then how can there be a miss black USA and national association of colored people with out the same for white yellow or brown people? Blacks just get on the defensive so fast because of what happened a hundred plus years ago. Most inner city black people aren’t even educated enough to write a paragraph about slavery but just use it as a scapegoat. Why aren’t Jews hateful of Germans nowadays. Because they are smart and realize that is was he doing of one douchebag and you can’t demean a whole country based on one douche. You guys fought for your rights and won equality so how about you drop the whole white/black deal because that’s what you south out for in the first place and won. I don’t think I need to explain the definition of equality, so why isn’t there a white history month? Or white miss USA? Or national association for the advancement of white people? You guys are the racist ones holding on to the black card. I thought our skin color was equal now. MLK would shake his head at you if he was alive today

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    1. AMG says:

      “Most inner city black people aren’t even educated enough”

      You just exposed yourself as the typical white racist yet you’re crying over a black dating website. ..

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  36. shesjustadoll@gmail.com says:

    I have to agree with your sewing club analogy.
    It’s not racist to have a niche marketing technique geared for a specific demographic. —A knitter isn’t going to go to a sewing club if they don’t sew.

    Everyone deserves a space where they can just be themselves and not have to worry about being judged for being who they are.

    But of course I just feel that people should be happy with the person makes them happy.

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  37. redryder72 says:

    the site is discriminatory, by definition.

    dis·crim·i·na·tion [dih-skrim-uh-ney-shuhn]
    noun
    1.an act or instance of discriminating, or of making a distinction.

    2.treatment or consideration of, or making a distinction in favor of or against, a person or thing based on the group, class, or category to which that person or thing belongs rather than on individual merit: racial and religious intolerance and discrimination.

    3.the power of making fine distinctions; discriminating judgment: She chose the colors with great discrimination.

    4.Archaic. something that serves to differentiate.

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  38. JACK says:

    NONSENSE..THIS website is racist. There is only 1 race..human. If it was for white people, it would not survive 1 Day, and rightfully so

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  39. i agree with you on maybe their goal isnt to be racist, but it is their website name that is racist. if there was a website called whitepeoplemeet.com, black people would call it racist. even if those other websites you listed you say are primarily white, they didn’t choose a name that says white people meet. It’s the name of this website that white people find racist.

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  40. Blossum says:

    Peanur….YOU ARE A RACIST.
    GET OFF TGAT..BLACK PEOPLE ARE TREATED UNFAIRLY BULLSHYT! WHAT COLOR IS OUR….(WHITE peoples preaident too!!) president!!?? ECERYONE IS TIRED OF TGAT ..POOR ME..IM NOT TREATED RIGHT CAUSE IM BLACK WAGON…PLEEEEEZ!!! GET OVER YOURSEKF….
    I ONLY DATE BLACK….AND I AM ON BLACK PEOPLE MEET .COM!! BRUTBAS STILL HOLLA AT ME….

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  41. Kel says:

    Blackpeoplemeet.com is ultimately not racist. When first hearing of it, I thought it was simply because of the website’s name. However, it’s name does not mean no whites allowed. I would like to think that this entire debate as to whether or not this website is discriminatory is completely senseless and that the color of our skin shouldn’t even matter anymore, especially in situations like this, but that would be staggeringly ignorant of me. I am not black OR white, so maybe I just don’t understand. But blackpeoplemeet is not racist in my opinion if it allows members of any race to be a part of it.

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  42. BWBY Guy. says:

    Here’s the facts people…”BlackPeopleMeet.com is the premier online dating service for black singles. Black singles are online now in our large and active community for dating. BlackPeopleMeet.com is designed for dating, pen pals and to bring black singles together. Join BlackPeopleMeet.com and meet new black singles for friendship and dating. BlackPeopleMeet.com is a niche dating service for single black women and single black men. Become a member of BlackPeopleMeet.com and learn more about meeting your black match online.” This is the mission statement for blackpeoplemeet.com. and is posted at the bottom of their main page. So IN FACT and by DEFINITION they are NOT RACIST because there is no mention or imposition of superiority. Unfortunately, when it comes to the topics of segregation and equality, they are most definitely GUILTY. Law requires them to allow other races to join but in their own words it was intentionally created for “single black women and single black men”. Naturally, with identification, comes separation. Black, white, brown, yellow…colors separated and identified. The ONLY identification that can be applied that does not segregate is one simple word…Human. Situations like these take us back 60 years and are equivalent to separate drinking fountains.

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  43. Chris says:

    I am not racist. I do struggle with the fact that there even needs to be a black or white or brown or red or white issue? I don’t think the site is intended to be racist but to help black singles make connections. I do however think the name does suggest that there is some sort of racism involved. Almost a poke in the face of people of other colors. I really wish there was an easy way for people of all colors not to assume that the other race is racist towards them. It is definitely a culture thing. If a black cop shoots an unarmed white man, nothing thought of it in media. If a white cop shoots a black man, it’s a media frenzie witch only fuels racism and riots or bad behavior. I am Native American, I am neither white not black. I pray for the day it is not an issue of the color of skin but of what it is that makes us up as individuals. If the entire world was color blind, but yet everyone’s behaviors stayed the same, what would be said then?

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  44. caleb s. says:

    I can’t believe so many people are arguing for a sight that so strongly promotes only a certain race. A lot of people fought very hard to desegregate schools, living areas, and public places. It is ridiculous to begin segregating websites for only a certain race. This sight is full of rude comments towards non-black people. Limiting against someone’s freedom because of the color of their skin is racist. Even if you feel like someone has wronged you in the past, there is no excuse for this kind of racism.

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  45. I don’t believe that blackpeoplemeet.com is racist, but I do believe if it were the other way around, redpeoplemeet.com for instance it would be viewed as racist.

    ….Just my thoughts on the subject

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  46. MyNameIs... says:

    Slavery isn’t something that only african american people have experienced, other races have gone through the same thing in other instances. During WW2 for example caucasian people have experienced the horrors of slavery.

    Unfortunately there is racism in he world we live in today, but I think that its due to posts like this. It’s african americans playing the race card immediately without taking other factors into consideration. Its as if because he or she is african american something is owed to him or her, because at one point in our nations history there was slavery.

    Yes, african americans were treated horribly. It’s important to realize though that no african american today has gone through slavery.

    I would like to share one more thing….

    There was one point in my life about a year ago, that I worked at a clothing store. I will never forget an experience that I had there one weekday afternoon. An african american woman came in, and attempted to use a coupon on clearance items when checking out. I politely explained that as much as I would like to be able to use the coupon on the items, I simply could not. The coupon itself clearly excluded clearance items, and we also had signs up in the store making that statement. Anyway, after my explanation she demanded to speak with a manager. I then radioed my manger who came over. My manager then explained, what I previously had. The women then replied with,

    “It’s because I’m black isn’t it, I’m not afraid to play the race card.I will sue you, and have all of you fired.”

    Shocked I didn’t say anything, long story short she ended up paying for the items without the coupon. I always thought it was funny though because my friend that was working with me that day just happened to be african american. He was standing beside me through the ordeal and said something to the effect of:

    “I think racism against african americans exists, largely because of african americans using it as somewhat of a disability almost.”

    P.S I’m still friends with him today even though I have moved on to opportunities else where. I think that SOME not all but a limited few african americans feel that because they are african american they have the right to be treated differently.

    I don’t believe that blackpeoplemeet.com is racist, but I do believe if it were the other way around, redpeoplemeet.com for instance it would be viewed as racist.

    ….Just my thoughts on the subject

    I decided to add more to the post and to use my actual email instead of a fake one to view all the negative comments that are sure to follow this post.

    Summary::—————————————————-
    Most not all but most, of the racism against African Americans that exists today, in the United States of America, in my opinion is a direct result of a select few other African Americans.

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  47. Annomyous says:

    Sweetie I don’t know if you realize this but you are racist if everything you said was revere see and said by a white person it would be called racist you people are the first ones to segregate your selfs before any other race does it for you

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  48. stan says:

    Isn’t it interesting how blacks can never be racist? There are all black colleges, fraternities, and even a Black Caucus in Washington. Any other ethnic groups have this privilege?

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  49. Roland says:

    wow. I didn’t even read the article due to how blatantly ignorant the title is. “White people Not Everything is About You!”…..seriously?

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  50. Anon says:

    majority and minority is based on power. Not based on what race has more in the country. BET, JET, Ebony and blackpeoplemeet.com just perpetuates and reminds us that racial segregation still exists. Why is it that this kind of stuff only involves blacks? Is it because of the harsh racism they have experienced in the past? probably. Will they ever let it go? probably not.

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  51. All of this makes me so sad. I’ve always been told all my life that I was a strange child because I was always attracted to different things than other children. I always had my face buried in a book while everyone else played. During Senior photo week, someone pointed out that while the majority of the class was segregated I was the only white-looking person smack in the middle of the black portion of the massive portrait. All I said was oh wow and laughed. I didn’t notice it and it didn’t bother me. Then another friend said it was because it was easy to be around me because I never saw color. To this day I still hold that dear. When I tell a story I don’t describe the person based on the color of their skin and I don’t focus on race. I describe a person based on their personality, beauty, actions, etc.. Yes, I may look white but I don’t accept that. My moms side is Native American. My dads is Black, Hispanic, German, and Russian. I’m a Heinz 57 bottle and I like that I’m unique. I also like to judge people based on who they are as people. People can be beautiful or they can be nasty and from my experience it’s regardless of race or skin color. I also think people should have the right to choose where they feel most comfortable. For most, that is a place of likeness. I know I’m the exception. I’ve dated Hispanic, black Hispanic, white, Native American, Mexican, and various other people who have been uniquely mixed. Finally at the end of my dating life I have absolutely fallen in love with a black man and he is so powerfully proud to be black and shares true black history with me. I listen and I soak it in. Unbelievably so I’m the last person he should’ve ended up with but the beauty is he accepts me for every flaw and loves me for me, as I do him. When people who truly know us realize we are a couple, they are shocked and that’s ok. It’s ok for them to have opinions and to judge. Because at the end of the day it doesn’t hurt me. I am blessed with abundance even though my life is far from perfect. What makes me sad is that people bleed hate and they can’t even see it.

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  52. Justaman says:

    I am very sad and it’s hard to understand how the line between racism and segregation got so blurred. Black people.com would not be considered a racist site unless they did nothing the bash another races. They fall under segregation due to the fact they have segregated meaning they have separate himself from other races. They wish to meet similar skin and individuals or like-minded. Same with Christian sites same with Jewish date sites. There are even one night stand date sites. All segregated themselves from others to isolate what a person is looking for.

    Believe me I know what it feels like to be discriminated against due to the color of my skin. Also what it feels like to be separated because of my ideas and ideals. This will not solve anything my article means nothing. If you’re proud to be black Spanish Irish Scottish African it doesn’t matter if this is what you want good for you.

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  53. Mia says:

    These comments are all racist in some way. You call other people racist but you’re spewing out your own racism. I for one am mixed but look more white. I grew up around all kinds of different cultures. I’ve studied many cultures. I encourage everyone to study your own culture because a lot of you have it all wrong. The past is the past for a reason. Living off the past will not allow anyone to move forward. As far as discrimination. Everyone is discriminated against. I was growing up. Everyone is unique in their own way. You should be proud of who you are. The dating site has all different cultures on it and I for one don’t find it offensive. Just like Christians have their own dating site. Is that racist? Is it wrong black people have the NAACP? Or other organizations to help them? No its not. Would you say it’s racist because disabled people have a lot of organizations too. Are you serious? If people focused on making a difference instead of arguing over stupid dating sites and what’s racist and what’s not the world would be a better place. Who cares if they want to have a dating site designed to meet their own culture. Everybody has that right. Have a blessed day everyone.

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  54. Jose Quintero says:

    Guess what I am Hispanic, not black and I am on the site where black people meet. If you are white or Hispanic, go ahead join the site. I see plenty of white women on the site. So, it might seem racist, but it does not exclude me nor ask me the color of my skin or ethnic heritage. I am part white, but will not be labeled white as I recognize it as the dominant culture in America. Sure, some people see it as racist and want to say do not look at color, but my way is to say (even though my mom was so called white) I am not white. White I associate with racism black I do not.

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