We live in a culture that tells us day in and day out that Black women are the bottom of the totem pole. It wasn’t too long ago that a study was published by Psychology Today that stated that Black women were “objectively the least attractive women.” The article was fallacious, but it certainly garnered a lot of attention. You can read more about it here.
There was also an OK cupid “study,” that showed that Black women were the race of women who were responded to the LEAST, even though they responded to men the most.
If we believe all of this hype, it would seem that Black women are just ugly, undesirable…and so incredibly unattractive that no man would ever dare look at us in a sexual manner.
Outwardly, Black women are portrayed as the least desirable and the ultimate un-woman.
However, I decided to do a little experiment to see if this was true. So, I went on craigslist and posted an ad. *
In the ad, I specified that I was a Black woman. I gave my height, my weight and I specified that I was seeking A MAN who enjoyed physical activities, who was fun-loving, and open-minded. I mentioned that I enjoyed various hobbies like swimming, dancing, rock climbing, jazz and I stated that I was not afraid of intimacy.
I did NOT specify that I was interested in any particular race of man. I posted the ad in the NSA (no strings attached category) and I also posted an altered version of the ad in the LTR (long term relationship category) of the personals section. I was expecting that most of my responses would come from Black men because I am a Black woman, but these were my results.
I received roughly 442 responses and of the 442 response, 375 were from white males. Of the 375, about half were from married white males. About 15% of the responses were from Black men and the remaining responses were from Hispanic, one Indian and one Native American man. Many of the responses included pictures, phone numbers and sexually explicit references.
It is worth noting that I did NOT specify white men in my craigslist ad, but I did specify that I was a Black woman. Yet, most of responses were from white men…It is also worth noting that most of responses came from NSA category as opposed to the LTR category.
Many of the MWM, wanted discreet, sexual encounters. Some stated that they were going to be “in my area,” for the weekend, “discretion is a must”…”please respond back. ”
There were also white men who made references to Black men’s alleged sexual prowess in several of the responses…yep. One comment in particular from a white male stood out to me. He said that he was told that he was “like an African-American man from the waist down”…
Now, I know this experiment is by no means scientific, but the fact that more white men responded back to a Black woman’s craigslist ad than Black men says to me that there is some hypocrisy going on in society.
The impression that I got was that white men are not comfortable with admitting their attraction to Black women publicly. I wondered if maybe some of the white men who responded to my ad on craigslist would have been the same white men who checked the “anything but black box,” of their profile on dating websites. Would these same white men reject a Black woman openly because society portrays Black women as the least desirable? The fact that most of my responses came from the no strings attached ad that I placed and that the majority of the MWM wanted a “discreet encounter,” says that these men are not comfortable with being seen with Black women publicly at all and it also tells me that perhaps many white men view Black women as not being good enough for a long term relationship, but good enough for a discreet, dirty, shameful sex encounter.
Why hasn’t anyone done a study on the number married white men seeking sex with random Black women on craigslist…??
Let me know your thoughts?
*This experiment is by no means scientific, just my personal observations