I have to say, sometimes I think all the constant negativity in the media and in society has driven me a little insane as a black woman. I used to be outgoing, bubbly, but ever since I’ve become aware of the injustice of the world and the negativity that I face as a black woman, I noticed I’ve become increasingly depressed and negative.
Sometimes, its just too much. Experience racism and noticing the degradation of black women on a world wide scale can really do a number on someone’s spirit and mental health. It’s not good to constantly be exposed to such negativity. I don’t like the person that I’ve become sometimes. I just feel like my innocence has been lost. I try to be positive, but I can’t look at the world the way I used to.
Do you feel as a black woman that the negativity is killing your spirit?
What can we as black women do to fight the negativity that is directed at us, without being negative ourselves?
I can think of a few things:
1. Donate or help other black women, like poor black women or black women who are suffering from abuse. Ofcourse, we should help all people too. We should help all poor people and people who are suffering from abuse, but we can donate money to all people and also make sure to help black women who are suffering domestic abuse because black women are more likely to experience domestic abuse than any other group.
3. Support black women buisness
4. Support single black mothers
These are just a few pratical things we should do. I’m not saying support black women and no one else, I think we all know that all people, regardless of race need help from time to time, but lets be real black women need special attention because frequently, black women tend to be overlooked when it comes to needing help and support.
I don’t want to be a bitter, angry, idle woman who sits around and complains and never gets anything done, I don’t. I want to be a loving person who helps ALL people and especially black women because they’re already a marginalized group.
I guess I just think I could be doing more productive things than just ranting all the time and besides, its taking a toll on my mental and emotional health. I can’t be cursing, ranting and angry at every little thing, it will kill my spirit.
I also think its important that we focus on those who do love us. Our families, God, loved ones, friends and learn to love ourselves regardless. Understand our value and worth. Black women were made in God’s image, just the same as everyone else (atleast I believe so) and we have a right to be valued and loved just the same as anyone else.
But, its important to be positive, I’ve been called out on other blog/forum about being too negative and I admit sometimes I am negative, but I don’t mean to hurt anyone and I just want to see black women and people in general get the dignity and respect they deserve.