Interracial relationships…hot topic…why it’s a hot topic…I’ll never understand…because ‘interracial’ sex, relationships, marriage, etc…have been going on since before there were even set designations of ‘race’, and as long as the human race exists, interracial relationships will exist… it is nothing new.
With that being said, in an ideal world people would truly be able to see eachother as equal human beings regardless of color, but we don’t live in an egalitarian, idealistic world…we live in the real world. For many people, color matters. Some people prefer their own color, some people prefer a ‘different’ color. Nothing wrong with a healthy preference, but let’s be real there is a difference between a preference and being hateful.
If you enter into a relationship for the wrong reasons or for hateful reasons (color aside) you are building a relationship based on false and deceptive values. These values will manifest themselves in your relationship and ultimately you’ll have to deal with the consequences of your own foolish values.
Why am I saying this? I have seen so many blogs, forums and videos where people use their interracial relationship as a ‘weapon’ and tool of hate against others. That’s not cool. You shouldn’t get into an interracial relationship…or any relationship to spite another person or group…I can’t tell you how many blogs I’ve read where a person in an interracial relationship will claim to be so open-minded and color blind and then turn around make the most degrading and gross stereotypes about their own race…
Love who you want to love because you love them…not because you have insecurity issues with your own color, not because you are trying to spite certain members of your own race… Just love the person because you love them…
There’s no need to degrade your own race as a justification for dating ‘other races.’
When you claim to be color-blind and open, but discriminate against your own race or any other group, you’re essentially corrupting the very principle that you claim to advocate. Being color blind and open means being color blind and open to ALL PEOPLE, not just one specific group and every other race, but your own.
Don’t say black women have attitudes, black men are no good, black women are ugly, black men are lazy and that’s why you prefer this race or that race. Don’t claim to be colorblind and open, when you can’t even stand your own race…clearly you’re not colorblind…
Just love the person you love…interracial love should be about love period…just like non-interracial love should be about love…period.
Please do not corrupt the right that Richard and Mildred Loving fought for by infusing so-called ‘color-blind love’ with blatant hate and racism. Don’t call yourself open-minded and color blind when you’re not, please. Respect all people and strive to uphold the principle that Mildred and Richard fought to instill in society, which is that you should be able to see people for who they are on the inside, not define people by who they are on the outside. This applies to all people.