I do not need white men to validate my beauty. I’ve seen and heard so many comments from white men, black men, black women and every other group about how ‘unattracted white men are to black women.’ When John Mayer made his comments in the Playboy interview about having a ‘david duke cock and benetton heart,’ so many people took that comment personally. I thought the comment was stupid, but not because John Mayer has a ‘david duke cock,’ because frankly I barely knew who the guy was before that incident. I was mostly offended because the interviewer asked John Mayer if black women ‘throw themselves’ at him…?
Now, first of all I don’t know why people seem to think that black women all chase and run after white men. Historically and in the present (contrary to popular belief) black women have never been the ones running after white men. In fact, black women historically have had to run AWAY from white men due to the history of mistreatment black women have endured at the hands of the racist white men who sadly… did NOT have ‘david duke cocks.’
I, for one, take offense to the notion that black women are portrayed as being desperate for white male attention and validation. I get sick of people saying ‘why don’t white men like black women,’ and ‘why don’t white men marry black women like they do asian women?’ Hate to break it to you, but most black women tend to prefer their own race, just like most white men tend to prefer their own race. Ofcourse some white men like black women and some black women like white men, but most people tend to go for their own race. Black women aren’t chasing after white men anymore than white men are chasing after black women, so let’s get that straight.
The next thing, I get sick of people pretending like white men have the final say on what is considered beautiful and what is not. Who cares if white men like a certain look in black women, who cares if white men don’t date black women…really who cares? Why do we need white males to validate black beauty? I’ve heard some misguided black men state before that they’re basically embarassed because white men ‘supposedly’ don’t want black women and think of us as being ugly. Okay, let’s say that is the case for most white men (that’s debatable, but we’ll go with it), should it REALLY matter what white men think of black women’s beauty? We shouldn’t need the white stamp of approval to value our own beauty…
Why does it seem like some black people always need the white stamp of approval on everything, including on our own God-given looks. I personally love all my features as a black woman. I love our diversity. I love that black women can be curvy everywhere and we can also be small and petite, I love the full range of our skin tones, I love our thick full, pouty lips, I LOVE our natural kinky, curly, nappy hair. I LOVE our dark skin, I love everything about our beauty and I don’t need the white stamp of approval any longer to see myself as beautiful and other black women shouldn’t either.
So black women, I know most of you already know this, but its worth saying… you don’t NEED white male validation and don’t believe the hype that black beauty is inferior to the beauty of other races. Black women we ARE beautiful just the way we are!