Lupita Nyong’o is Brilliant, but Some Black Folks Need to Get a Clue cuz White Folks Shouldn’t Have to Validate You!

I am thrilled that Lupita Nyong’o, a beautiful, educated Black woman has been given credit for portraying the tragic story of Patsey in Twelve Years a Slave. I wept at her portrayal, but I have to say Black folks, why are we so excited about Hollywood giving Black folks some credit?

Hasn’t Hollywood shown us time and again, as an industry, that they couldn’t give two sh*ts about Black people? This is the same industry that put up Precious, The Help and Gone with the Wind as examples of the Black experience, so why are we jumping up and down when they finally throw us some crumbs and a bone??

I don’t know about y’all but I would trade in a single Oscar for a Black-owned production company where Black people could put out thousands of our own movies, with our own  movie stars and tell our own stories any day. Don’t get it twisted, I am happy for Ms. Nyong’o, she is talented, intelligent and beautiful and she deserved her credit, but I don’t want Black people to get blinded by the glitz and glam of white Hollywood and think that we’ve arrived and FORGET  what Hollywood has done to help the Black community… which is essentially nothing! 

In the long run, a single Oscar will not change much for Black people…if we want change, we need to start owning the production companies, owning the money and creating stars ourselves…then we can have our own BLACK OSCARS and they’ll carry just as much, (if not more prestige) as Hollywood Oscars.

So, let’s not get carried away and be too forgiving of Hollywood. I LOVE LUPITA, but let’s get a clue here.

19 thoughts on “Lupita Nyong’o is Brilliant, but Some Black Folks Need to Get a Clue cuz White Folks Shouldn’t Have to Validate You!

  1. I think the point of the Oscars, is that it’s for everyone. As for a black oscar, there’s the Black Movie Awards, BET Awards, Black Reel Awards, NAACP Image Award…

    I feel that if you need to put a restriction on who can enter, it’s because you’re not good enough for the real competition. Like the gay Olympics. You can be gay and in the regular Olympics. If you need the gay Olympics, it’s probably because you’re not that good an athlete.

    What Hollywood has done to help the Black community? Nothing. But why should they? It’s the role of the black community to help the black community, no one else’s.

    But Hollywood, which cares about nothing else than it’s own profits, isn’t racist at all. They will let anyone produce, write, star in a movie, as long as they can make money from it.

    1. not true Andy Chow, not all and if the Oscars are for everyone why is it 90% white? Why have they only had about 7 black women who’ve won oscars in all its existence? A Black oscars isn’t about excluding white people, it’s about giving black people a fair, unbiased shot to play non-stereotypical roles and get their due credit. it’s about supporting black business because just as you said, it’s the role of the black community to help the black community no one else’s right?

      also hollywood does exclude plenty of black movies that don’t portray blacks in a stereotypical way, see the movie Daughters of the Dust when Julie Dash presented that movie to Hollywood producers they would not provide the money for her to distribute the film because it didn’t portray blacks in a stereotypical way. they said “it was too beautiful to be a black movie,” and the only reason the movie came together is because BLACK WOMEN pooled their resources and put together enough money to get it distributed to limited theaters and then supported the film for the very reason that it was not stereotypical. so, that’s a lie that hollywood doesn’t exclude and isn’t racist, this is the same industry that backed Gone with the Wind and Song of the South for goodness sakes.

  2. I’m so glad to have a blog typing exactly what I was thinking. This by far not a hateration thing or another black woman trying pull her ‘sister’ down. But it’s high time we accept ourselves as being ‘stars’ rather than waiting on White Hollywood etc to do so. If Lupita had looked the same but not been classed as an ‘IT Girl’ by her white peers….. Would we be rating her as highly?. Let big ourselves up first and let everyone else play catch up -Congrats tho girl on your first oscar win :)

    1. exactly. she is gorgeous, talented and i am happy for her, no one is taking that away from her, but i’m talking about black people in general waiting for validation from white folks to value ourselves that needs to change.

  3. Oh Lupita looks so stunning in that dress.

    “In the long run, a single Oscar will not change much for Black people…if we want change, we need to start owning the production companies, owning the money and creating stars ourselves…then we can have our own BLACK OSCARS and they’ll carry just as much, (if not more prestige) as Hollywood Oscars.”

    I agree with this a thousand percent. I say the same thing for the music industry as well, let them have their awards shows, the black celebs that go don’t win anything and get dressed up for nothing. Lupita is a very graceful, intelligent, beautiful, woman. We cannot lose sight of what goes on in Hollywood. And I have not seen the movie yet, but plan to, I just want to point out that yet again blacks win only when it is a movie of us in subservient roles.

  4. Yeah,but she doesn’t have big boobs,so though she’s a great actress,and I’m glad she won the Best Supporting Actress Oscar,I wouldn’t date Ms, Nyong’o!!!!
    And as for validation,I’ve got a 160 IQ-GENIUS LEVEL,FOLKS!!!!!-and boyish good looks-at 60.Why would I need Hollywood-or black,white,Latin or other women validating ME????(If anything,fat black broads ALWAYS want someone like me validating their obesity and nasty attitude!!!!!!)

  5. Seeking white validation (white seal of approval) is one of black folks biggest weaknesses. Any black person who is seeking white validation will be perpetually seeking that validation because white folks NEVER validated us and NEVER will. I’m glad that I was able to get past white validation seeking. THE TIME IS PAST DUE TO VALIDATE OURSELVES AND EACH OTHER!!!

    1. i agree. it is tempting to seek validation from white people because the have a disproportionate amount of power, but it’s a fruitless endeavor.

      1. Peanut,
        Due we have a right to tell dark skinned women not to seek validation outside of the black community? The black community DOES NOT validate dark skinned girls and women. We are basically withholding validation then ridiculing them when they get it from non-blacks and like it. I believe validation from others is one of Maslow’s “Hierarchy of Needs”. It’s difficult to not receive any and self validate.
        Ridicule of dark skinned black women on Twitter by mostly black men:

        http://fedupblackwoman.blogspot.com/2014/03/omg-this-is-disgusting-and-black-people.html

  6. seeking validation from whites is part of racism/white supremacy. Since they control everything then of course people will want to please them. But let’s not forget white folks still attack michelle obama and serena williams because of the way they look so the whole whites will appreciate black beauty more is false. They appreciate “exotic” black beauty which to them is what lupita is “exotic” , and whites think blacks from other countries are more submissive and will try to divide and conquer.

    Yes black folks should validate each other and it begins with parents, sadly too many black folks have been trained to hate blackness and make fun of it and attack it. As a dark skinned woman I do deal with bs from some self hating blacks but also from other non black people, self hate is not isolated to our community.. White folks don’t appreciate dark skin as much as some people try to say, if they did then why are most of the unarmed people that get killed by them dark skinned? why do they give darker skinned people longer sentences if they are so unbiased? I will call out the bs in our communities and the self hate but lets not kid ourselves into thinking white folks appreciate our beauty more. They still will fire a black person for wearing natural hair and let’s not forget the acura commercial where they asked for a light skinned man to be in their commercial. They can tell the difference they are not as clueless as some like to believe, they still prefer white looking over black as we see with their tv shows notice what people they cast, light skinned or black males, if they cared so much about dark skinned females and appreciated us where are our roles? why do they give dark skinned women stereotypical roles if they care so much.

    1. Great and on point MstooGood!
      “They still will fire a black person for wearing natural hair and let’s not forget the acura commercial where they asked for a light skinned man to be in their commercial. They can tell the difference they are not as clueless as some like to believe, they still prefer white looking over black as we see with their tv shows notice what people they cast, light skinned or black males, if they cared so much about dark skinned females and appreciated us where are our roles? why do they give dark skinned women stereotypical roles if they care so much.”
      Very well said! Couldn’t agree more!

  7. And also I do know there are black males that don’t appreciate dark skin, and they ridicule it, but most of the time they are some dumb self hating sellout cooning black guys that I wouldn’t dare waste my time on. These are usually the black males that allow people to call them the n word and they are fine with it, these are usually the black males that embrace stereotypes about them. They are not quality black men. they are not kings but fools, just look at their usernames, smh.

    These are some effeminate males that have a white mind, no straight sane man would ignore a woman based solely on skin tone, they may ignore or pay more attention based on features, but that is different. White males in America have been the main ones that will ignore or have a double standard when it comes to females. They will appreciate the ass of jlo or any other non black female but on a black female they ridicule it and make fun of it like they do with mihcelle Obama and serena Williams. The black males that do act like they can’t see the beauty in dark skinned women are being more like their white counterparts and are repulsive to me.

    both colorism and racism hurt, I don’t seek validation from racists and I don’t seek validation from self hating black folks, I seek validation from within and from real conscious people. I would rather be ignored than validated by someone that hates me or hates themselves . I only want validation from those that love me, support me, and encourage me, i’m learning to ignore and not give a fk. about the ones that don’t.

  8. There are black people that feel alienated from other black people. I’m not one of them but I’ve met some. I’ve met black people with deep scares from abuse they suffered at the hands of people that looked like them. Younger generations of black young people raised in mostly white environments often recount having their “blackness” challenged and tested by others. This kind of stuff rolls off my back but some people are really hurt by it. We judge each other too much by the clothes we wear, music we listen to, and speech patterns (lack of code switching skills). Some times I think we push other black people into the arms of non-blacks.

  9. @ The Alchemist
    I understand your perspective in both of your post, but black people must be careful not to alienate themselves from other black people just for what some self-hating negroes have done to them. There’s too many black people in the world; those who don’t wanna act right toward you move on. I have been deeply hurt by other black people, but I did not start hating every single black person on the planet because of what other blacks have done to me. I was disrepected, ignored, abhorred, hated on, etc. by some of the black boys in my school years, but I did not stop loving black men cause of that.

    1. I never said these people hate other black people. Humans tend to avoid groups of people that have harmed them. Some black people feel that they have been harmed more by black folk than white folk. We must stop ignoring intra-racial abuse of all kinds. I would also include the physical, sexual, and emotional abuse of black children as a form of intra-racial abuse that must end.

  10. @The Alchemist
    “Some black people feel that they have been harmed more by black folk than white folk”
    Black persons who have been harmed by other black folks should be careful not to think that they will be treated better by white folk. Imo, It is dangerous to think that way because if they get around the right white supremacists they will be getting their nigger wake up call and then what.
    “We must stop ignoring intra-racial abuse of all kinds.”
    I understand clearly that we need to address intra-racial abuse and I discuss this a lot also with black folk who are willing to admit that there is a lot of intra-racial abuse within the black community. It hurts terribly to watch black people disrespect, demean, degrade, betray, etc each other. Intra-racial abuse is a buyproduct of white supremacy (racism). Black people are TRAINED to mistreat each other. We need to first of all understand white supremacy (racism) what it is and how it works and how it has got a lot to do with how black people treat each other.

  11. Okay, I actually saw this movie, I got to say I really didn’t like it. Maybe it’s factually what happened, maybe it’s historically important, but really, what’s the message? I go see movies to escape my life, to dream about the future.

    This movie has no redeeming quality. The first 10 minutes are fine. Then it’s more misery after the other. Even at the end, the last sentences, they are about how nothing good happened, justice wasn’t served.

    I seriously think these types of movies should not exist. Women get raped and beaten every day. I’m not going to go see a movie about that. I want to see a movie about women and men striving for good things in life and eventually getting them. Something to inspire me. This film, it’s really just sick stuff again and again, and at the end I just ask: why?

    I mean seriously, I know this movie has a 97% rating on rotten tomatoes, but the reviewers must all be masochist. All this movie did to me was make me feel depressed and miserable.

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