The George Zimmerman verdict has been a painful wake up call for many Black Americans. It reminds us that at the end of the day, we aren’t really valued or truly seen as equals in this country. Even with a half-Black President, we still are not treated fairly. We still are incarcerated at unprecedented rates, we still are receiving harsher sentences for committing the same crimes as white folks, we still earn less on average, we’re still unemployed more and we are killed more. Black women are disrespected by EVERYONE, including Black men.(See Marissa Alexander who was disrespected by her husband and the criminal justice system) We do not control our media image and both Black men and Black women tend to die younger than white people.
This country hasn’t been very kind to us. We are the children of West/Africa who were stolen from our land, so we’ve never been fully accepted here because we’ve had no choice, but to stay here.
This has been a wake up call for many Black people. It’s been a wake up call for me because I’ve realized that it doesn’t matter how much we, as Black people, try to assimilate or “integrate,” into white society, we will NEVER be accepted as equals by this country…never, not as Black people any way. I now realize that assimilation and integration has effectively destroyed the Black community. Yeah, I know that is going to tick some people off, but integration has destroyed our unity and now we are completely dependent on white people for jobs, positive media images, justice and even life…as is exemplified by Trayvon Martin. The criminal justice system has our lives in its hands.
Today, we have people promoting interracial marriage as a superior alternative to Black relationships. There is nothing wrong (inherently) with marrying or dating interracial, but the more I see, the more I realize that for the most part love has little to do with the reason that many Black people get into interracial relationships. Probably 85-90% of the Black American population overall is brainwashed to hate ourselves for being Black. We’ve been taught this since the day we were dragged off the slave ships. Everywhere we look, we are taught that to just being Black alone is crime because that is the message that we are taught in this white supremacist nation.
From the earliest days we are taught to hate being Black, we are taught that white people are heroes in school. We are taught that Black’s have contributed nothing to society, so too many of us aspire to assimilate into white society.
My life is a prime example of this mentality. Although I have two Black parents, I’ve grown up in a predominately white world. The first thing my parents did was send me to a predominately white prep school and buy a house in a predominately white neighborhood because those were “the best.” Many of us shun HBCU’s and other predominately Black organizations because well…they’re just not good enough.
But, look at me now…after attending a predominately white school and living in a predominately white neighborhood for more than 20 years, I still get the side eye when I go out walking in my neighborhood with my dog. I still have white people asking me with a perplexed expression on their faces “did you just move here?” And my white prep school…the majority of my white female “friends,” do not even call, text or check up on me…after we went to school of 10,12, 13 years. We don’t even really talk.
So, what have I really gained from being assimilated into whiteness…not a lot. I’m still seen as an outsider, it didn’t matter how “properly” I speak, it didn’t matter that I had no idea what it meant to “speak Ebonics,” and it didn’t really matter how well I did in school…I was never fully accepted and I know that I never will be…which brings me to the discussion of Black people assimilating and interracial relationships.
In a letter about Trayvon Martin, Kola Boof wrote:
” I am devastated because the murder of Trayvon Martin…and the racist-inhumane acquittal of the blatantly racist [white]Latino…Good Ol Boy George Zimmerman only stands to remind us GLOBALLY that Other Humans have never placed value on African lives…I wish Black Americans would stop this belief that anyone with a smidgen of color is automatically in the same boat and is our ally…And to you Black men who keep claiming that white women are superior to Black women—and the women who look like your mothers are the lowest creatures on earth—this is exactly what you deserve. Your white queen savior (eye roll) really showed up for your asses today. Just like Paula Deen and Susan Smith…Charles Ramsey saved the lives of 3 “pretty white girls,” and they got on national TV and thanked everyone for their freedom, except him…the man who saved them.”
“Can my white husband empathize when our Black [biracial] son is racially profiled?”
“ From the day that Black people are born we are told that we’re inferior and unworthy of equality and love. We are encouraged by the media [and society] to degrade other Black people… Black people in general are portrayed as dysfunctional, yet the media markets interracial relationships (solely to Black people) and portrays them as being superior to Black relationships… Movies like Precious, The Help, Flight and Monster’s Ball all portray Black relationships as dysfunctional…Films like Red Tails, Save the Last Dance and Hitch portray Black men as being happier with a non-Black woman…white supremacy is rampant and Blacks are indoctrinated from birth to view whiteness as superior…it is my opinion that some Black people, more than people will admit, enter into interracial relationships with negative views of other Black people. There is a reason that most Black children pick the white doll in the Black doll vs. white doll experiment…we are indoctrinated to view whiteness as being more beautiful, more natural and superior to Blackness. It would be naïve to think that this mentality would not manifest itself in our dating and marital choices as well.”