I came across a “documentary,” if you want to call it that on why some Black American men are going to Brazil.
First let me say this,
Nao entendo por que homens negros americanos dizem que mulheres negras americanas nao gostam mulheres negras brasilieras. Eu as considero minha irmas.
That was my attempt to say in Portuguese that “I don’t know why Black American men say that Black American women don’t like Black Brazilian women, I consider them to be my sisters.”
Now, my Brazilan sisters out there, if my grammar is off please correct me, but I’m trying to improve my Portuguese, guess why because after having traveled to Bahia, I plan to go back…because I LOVED IT THAT MUCH.
I just wanted to reiterate the fact that not only do I view Brazil in a positive light, but I view my Black Brazilian sisters in a positive light as well.
The uh…mockumentary that was made featured a group of Black American men who (for the most part) went down a list of things that were wrong with Black American women and why they feel that Brazilian women (including Black Brazilian women) are better.
I wasn’t really bothered by the documentary because it was actually comical. Now that I’ve been to Brazil myself, I feel a sense of pride because I know a lot of the negative things that they’re saying about Black American women aren’t true and I also know that they’re trying to pit Black Brazilian women against Black American women and I am not falling for it.
I have nothing against my Black Brazilian sisters and videos like these are just divisive. I actually feel a kinship with Black Brazilian women because we have a shared history and we face many of the similar issues.
About The Video:
One of the men in the video said that when he’s in Rio, if he sees a Black American woman, “she is walking with her head down because she knows that she can’t hold a candle to a Brazilian woman…”
I guess the Black American man knows how to read minds and knows exactly what the Black American woman is thinking…huh?
But, let me say this, I saw many beautiful Brazilian women, beautiful BLACK Brazilian women in Brazil, but why would I want to compete with anyone. It gives me pride to see beautiful Black women anywhere and to be honest, when I was in Brazil there were A LOT of Brazilian women who looked similar to Black American women. Both ethnic groups have beautiful women that’s indisputable.
Also, what some Black American men don’t understand is what they perceive as being lauded and praised for being a Black American man in Brazil, is no different than the way Black American women are treated abroad either. When I was in Brazil with another Black American woman, we’d be walking down the street and if someone heard us speaking English ( they couldn’t tell we were American unless we opened our mouths) people would come up to us and say “americana, americana!” Plenty of people approached us, we were treated very nicely by both men and women.
And, I kid you not when I tell you this…
when my girlfriend (who is also Black American) and I were walking to the beach and we ran into this Black Brazilian guy who spoke English, he said to us “Black American women are very beautiful and exotic.” The first thing that popped into my mind was “damn that’s the EXACT same thing that Black American men say about Black Brazilian women.”
I responded back with “I think that Black Brazilian women are beautiful and exotic…” because I did think they were beautiful and exotic, I was proud to see so much Black beauty everywhere for once, but I ALSO see Black beauty in the United States. I see plenty of beautiful Black women in Atlanta, North Carolina, Las Angeles, New York and you can find Beautiful and classy Black women EVERYWHERE….so I don’t agree with these Black American men in the video who are trying to USE Black Brazilian women as A TOOL to put down Black American women…
Why Are They Trying to Pit Black American Women against Black Brazilian Women?
I Do Not Resent Any Brazilian Woman. However, I do FAVOR certain Brazilian women over others, I’ll admit that I am ESPECIALLY fond of Black Brazilian women out of all other Brazilian women because, well, I’M BLACK!…This is not to say I don’t like non-Black Brazilian women, I can vibe with anyone, but I feel like I could relate to a Black Brazilian woman better because we both deal with prejudice and the Black Brazilian women that I know in the United State relate well to Black American women.
When I was in a restaurant in Bahia, one Black Brazilian woman and I had a nice conversation (in my broken Portuguese) about hair. I told her that I liked her hair, she told me that she liked my hair and we talked about Obama and had a very nice chat.
I didn’t resent her or feel jealous of her, she was very nice and if I spoke more Portuguese maybe we could have really developed a friendship.
People ALWAYS want to see Black women DIVIDED because it keeps us in our place!!!
They just want to keep Black American women in a box and have us believe that everywhere we go, we’re the worst of the worst so that we’ll never break out and see the world and they want to put Black Brazilian women in this box so that they’ll believe that Black American women resent them, so that they’ll never interact with Black American women. I believe that this is because of the risk that Black American & Black Brazilian women might discover that GASP we aren’t so different, we have similar struggles, we have similar cultures…and we might COME TOGETHER and be friends…and that wouldn’t do anyone any good, especially not these type of egotistical Black American men now would it???
I’ve traveled to 5 different countries and by FAR, I felt the most welcomed by both men and women in Brazil…maybe it was because I was in Bahia and most of these men were in Rio de Janeiro, I don’t know, but I think it’s just a lie to say that Black American women aren’t valued or are “less than,” the women of Brazil. No human being is inherently “less than,” any other.
It just bothers me that these men in the video would tell lies that way to keep Black American women thinking that we’re on the bottom everywhere we go and what bothers me EVEN MORE was the fact that they tried to pit Black American women against Black Brazilian women. I have never had any problems with Black Brazilian women ever. I wish that I had MORE Black Brazilian women friends because I find that out of all the ethnic groups of Black women, we have A LOT in common. We are both descendants of African slaves and we’re both in mixed countries where whiteness is on a pedestal and we both experience racism, so a lot of their struggles we can relate to.
any way, you can check out the video for yourself.
But that is the beauty of travel, Brazil was just the beginning, next trip will be even better and I still gotta get TO SENEGAL AND CAPE VERDE!