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My new favorite erotik author, Scottie Lowe has written an article entitled “Society Told Me a Secret.” It’s about Black women’s vaginas and our bodies and how society portrays our most private and sacred part of our identity. Check it out when you get a chance.

Here are my thoughts. We all are aware of the hositility towards Black women. We all remember John Mayer’s arrogance and his “white supremacist dick,” which is “too good,” to ever touch a Black pussy. We all heard the ignorance and desperation of the white female on the show “Real Misstresses of Atlanta,” who proudly proclamed that “nobody wants Black pussy,” and “all the Black men want her.” Real or not, those were the words she spoke and her statements have been echoed many times before.

Why is it whenever I go on a forum and I come across a topic on Black women, someone always brings up Black women’s vaginas? It’s usually men who bring up Black women’s vaginas, which is interesting, but women do it sometimes too. Comments vary from the negative to positive to the bizarre. Some of the negative comments can be any of the following, “black pussy looks like roast beef,” “black pussy smells bad,” “I don’t want an afro down there,” “what color is it, purple?” “No one wants Black pussy.” Then, ofcourse you’ve got the minority of positive, if you can call it that, comments about Black women’s vaginas. Comments, such as “black pussy is great.” Unfortunately, the negative tends to outweight the positive on these forums though.  All kinds of stupid comments about Black women’s vaginas come from these “men” who claim to be so repulsed by Black vagina.

Not only are the comments about Black women’s vaginas misogynistic, as if the only value that a woman has is what is inbetween her thighs, but they are racist. We could easily just attribute the comments of men such as John Mayer and anonymous forum posters as misogynisitic and not worth our time and thought anyway, but the truth is although a woman’s vagina is not her entire worth, our vagina is a part of our identity.

I wonder though if, underneath the surface of repulsion expressed by so many people in regards to Black women’s vaginas…is there a fixation, obsession and even fear or envy of our vaginas? Why do some men who claim to be so repulsed by Black women’s vaginas, think so much about our vaginas in the first place? Black women’s vaginas have been made into a fetish where there is  outright fear camaflauged as disgust and underneath the disgust there is, I believe, a deep envy and desire in some people. The fear of Black pussy, I believe, stems from our history.

It’s curious that some men would say “no one wants Black pussy,” when in reality many men of all races have always gone out of their way just to get to some “Black woman pussy.” Entire new ethnic groups have been birthed through the Black woman’s vagina. However, the historical conquest of Black women’s vagina has left a stain on the minds of men and women around the world.  For centuries, we have not been allowed to cherish our vaginas…our bodies because our bodies and vaginas were always being abused and misused by other people. Whether on the slave plantation or in the music videos. I believe when people make comments about Black women’s vaginas, it is an attempt to control, what they can no longer control. The more emancipated emotionally and physically Black women become, the more fearful of Black pussy other people will be. We now have Black women doing incredible things, breaking down barriers, advancing in ways that were inconceivable to many people generations ago and most importantly, we have Black women learning OUR VALUE and learning to love ourselves and this is intimidating to many people.

I see right through it all. Black women are and have always been just as woman, just as desirable and just as whole as any other ethnicity of woman? When you look at our vaginas, our wholeness and womanhood is inescapable and that’ frightening to some people. People have always tried to defeminize and dewomanize Black women. If they can discount our vaginas, that makes us appear less womanly and therefore their mistreatment is justified in their eyes. Judy Chicago created a work of art years ago entitled “Dinner Party,” the artwork featured plates of notable women in history where their vulva’s were made into symbolic representations of their identity. Each vulva highlighted the individual contrubtion that woman made to the world. It also served to uplift the bodies and sexuality of women. It was a great idea for artwork, but SOjourner Truth, a Black woman was the only woman at the Dinner Party without a vagina. In place of her vulva were three faces.  What does that say about the perception of Black women? Is it that society doesn’t see Black women as truly whole enough to have a vagina??

Or is it some big conspiracy to keep Black women in “our place,” by dewomanizing us? Deep down, does society know that we are just as desirable and coveted as other women…is this threatening to people? So threatening that even something as intimate as our vaginas is a matter of public concern?